N-Dubz logo Tulisa Contostavlos hasn’t had sex in two years as she refocuses on friendships.
As N-Dubz returns to the stage after an 11-year layoff, the vocalist, 35, is firmly back in the limelight alongside comrades Dappy Contostavlos and Richard Rawson, nicknamed Fazer.
The three are relishing in the recent release of new album Timeless, which is rocket up the charts, after an incredibly massive reunion tour, with more gigs underway and another tour planned for next year.
Tulisa isn’t in a relationship because she’s been ‘celibate’ for two years and doesn’t plan to have sex again until she’s in a serious and monogamous relationship, but that’s not the only reason N-Dubz are busier than ever.
In a new interview, the Secrets singer said she has ‘been celibate for the past two years so no sex before monogamy,’ adding: ‘I don’t date, I court.’
‘So basically you are courting because you like to build friendships before you start dating, you just don’t shag them and you get to know them.’
She added to the Zeze Millz Show: ‘I’ve got friendships that I’m building.’
Tulisa’s sections of the tunes often related to this way of thinking about relationships, so this may not come as a surprise to die-hard N-Dubz fans.
(The least subtle of this in Against All Odds skit Duku Man, where after Dappy describes his sexual escapades in absolutely gross detail, he declares: ‘I did ask Tulisa, and she told me that “I will never shag a man unless I love him!”‘)
Tulisa recently spoke out about the band’s reunion and what it means to them, noting that experiencing the love from fans has been “life-saving.”
She claimed the fans’ unwavering support helped her cope with the mental health pressures and anxiety caused by the highly publicised ‘drama’ of her last stint in the spotlight, which ranged from X Factor bullying allegations to a drug trial that collapsed after a sting in which a judge stated she had been ‘cruelly tricked.’
‘So much celebrity happened over the years that it kind of got lost in translation. The general public will have a certain perception of me but an N-Dubz fan will know this completely different side of me, where you follow me on Instagram and see me doing stupid s***.
‘A hundred per cent there’s a massive misconception about me but not with N-Dubz fans. And that’s one thing that feels so amazing about being back. It’s very comforting to me. It feels like home, especially after what I went through for so many years.
‘So much anxiety built up, any time I went to do anything – whether it’s my own solo stuff or an appearance or even stepping on a TV show. I just felt like eyes are on me, the walls are up, the claws are out.
‘And coming back to N-Dubz is this feeling of freedom, where you’re just loved for what you do and the music you make. It’s actually allowed me to open up and be more vulnerable again.
‘I’ve gone from having a deactivated Instagram for years to now, doing the stupidest s*** ever that I wouldn’t usually do in my day-to-day life and sharing it with N-Dubz fans because it’s such a safe space I can actually feel like I’m allowed to be vulnerable and the real me comes out more.’
She added: ‘‘Honestly, N-Dubz fans the last year and a half have changed everything for me internally – my mental health, the way that I feel, the anxieties I’ve had, it’s completely been lifted, like a weight off my shoulders, because of interacting with N-Dubz fans. It’s life-saving s***.’
Source My Celebrity Life.